Learning From Mistakes

🧵 Ever heard of a “Failure Résumé”? It might be the smartest career exercise you’re not doing. Here’s what it is—and why it can change the way you grow 👇 A failure résumé is exactly what it sounds like: Not a list of wins. Not your greatest hits. But your flops, screw-ups, and bad decisions. It’s uncomfortable—and incredibly useful. The idea comes from Tina Seelig at Stanford. She challenges her students to build a résumé of their failures. Then asks: “What can you learn from each one?” I made my own It wasn’t for the public. Just a long list of personal and professional misfires. Then I reviewed each one and asked: Was there a pattern? Was there a lesson? Turns out—yes. My biggest insights? Mistake #1: Starting projects based on untested assumptions. Assuming I “knew enough” instead of doing the homework. Mistake #2: Saying yes to things I wasn’t fully committed to. Half-hearted effort = half-baked results. Those 2 patterns showed up again and again. But here’s the upside: Once I spotted them, I could fix them. That’s the power of a failure résumé. It turns regret into direction. So try this: List your failures. Big, small, awkward, and ugly. Then ask: Where did I go wrong? What keeps showing up? There’s gold buried under the cringe. You don’t need to share it with anyone. Just be honest. Be curious. And if you don’t do it? Well… you might have to add that to your failure résumé too 😅

Losing hurts. But staying stuck in that loss? That’s the actual failure. We’re taught to see our careers in binary: ↳ Win or lose ↳ Success or failure ↳ Up or out But people who build sustainable success know different: They don’t win or lose. They win or they learn. Here’s what many others miss: The learning days outnumber the winning days. By a lot. And every setback is showing you something: 📌 Flub the presentation → Get better at storytelling 📌 Mangle the pitch → Sharpen your message 📌 Miss the deadline → Build better habits 📌 Botch the promotion → Clarify your values 📌 Lose the job → Find your path The pattern? What feels like failure in the moment becomes the foundation for what’s next. But only if you stop treating loss like defeat. 3 ways people who keep learning reframe setbacks: 1/ They extract the lesson quickly ↳ “What did this reveal about my approach?” ↳ “What would I do differently knowing what I know now?” ↳ Turn the sting into strategy before moving on. 2/ They separate outcome from effort ↳ A bad result doesn’t always mean bad work. ↳ Sometimes you do everything right and still lose. ↳ The market shifts, timing’s off, it wasn’t the fit. 3/ They keep a “setback inventory” ↳ Track what each “no” taught you. ↳ Notice patterns in what’s working vs what’s not. ↳ Use failures as data, not identity. Your biggest learns will come from your hardest losses. Not despite them. Because of them. This isn’t toxic positivity. Losing still hurts. Rejection still stings. Setbacks still shake your confidence. But staying stuck in shame? That’s optional. Remember: Failure isn’t the opposite of success. It’s part of the process. The question isn’t whether you’ll lose. You will. The question is: will you learn? ♻️ Share to help someone learn 👉 Follow me, Maryann (MJ), for mindset-led career growth 📷 Image: @insighttimer (IG)

Mistakes don’t define you. How you respond to them does. Every mistake hides a lesson. This framework will help you uncover it. Whether you’re running a business, leading a team, or managing your own life, navigating challenges can feel like uncharted waters. Mistakes happen, but they’re where the magic of growth begins. Let me share a simple framework that changed the way I approach challenges. It's based off of the U.S. Army’s After Action Review method. This framework can help you take any 'failure' - in business, leadership, or life - and turn it into wisdom through 5 reflective questions: 1/ What was planned? ↳ Set clear business goals and success metrics. Example: "We planned to increase website traffic by 50% in Q1 through a targeted social media ad campaign, with a clear focus on driving sign-ups for our newsletter." 2/ What actually unfolded? ↳ Track your progress honestly. ↳ Note both wins and setbacks. Example: "The campaign doubled website traffic, but only 10% of visitors signed up for the newsletter. Additionally, most clicks came from an unexpected age group (18-24)." 3/ What did you learn? ↳ Identify gaps between expectations and reality. ↳ Uncover growth opportunities. Example: "We discovered that our messaging resonated with a younger demographic, which wasn’t our original target audience. The landing page design was also too cluttered, which likely discouraged sign-ups." 4/ What can you do differently next time? ↳ Use your insights to shape a clear strategy. ↳ Create concrete action steps. Example: "We’ll redesign the landing page with a clean, minimal layout and a clearer call-to-action. We’ll also create personalised ads to better target both our intended audience and the younger demographic who engaged." 5/ Where can we try these new ideas next time? ↳ Identify upcoming business decisions. ↳ Apply your insights immediately. Example: "We’ll apply these changes to our next product launch campaign. Specifically, we’ll use the improved landing page design and split-test targeted ads to ensure higher engagement and conversion." Here’s what I want you to remember: ↳ Every challenge you face is shaping you into a stronger, more resilient leader - whether in business, leadership, or life. ↳ You have the power to learn, grow, and improve every time. ⤵️ What’s the most important lesson a mistake has taught you? ♻️ Know someone navigating challenges? Share this post to help them turn mistakes into their next breakthrough. 🔔 Follow me, Jen Blandos, for more practical tips on business growth and leadership.

You can’t have a high-velocity, high-impact career without screwing up. I had multiple public screwups on my way to Amazon VP. The good news is that mistakes can help your career if you handle them right. Here is a formula: 1) Own it. 2) Fix it. 3) Communicate it. 4) Learn from it. 5) Move on. That really is it, but of course, each of those pieces has steps of its own. To own your mistake, you must be specific and direct. Tell your leadership what went wrong and why to the best of your knowledge. Tell them that it is on you to fix and how you will go about doing that. If you don’t know any of these details, tell them you don’t know and when they can expect an update. To fix the problem, consider what options you have based on new information. If time allows, pressure test these options by running them past one expert and one skeptic. Ask three questions: “What am I missing?” “What breaks first?” “What would have to be true for this to work?” Then, assign clear owners, clear expectations, and call in reinforcements. Get experts from other teams to help you—don’t be proud. Make small adjustments where possible, but don’t be afraid to roll it all back. Don’t be tied to old expectations or original ideas. Give your leadership and team a cadence for your updates, and stick to it. Frequent updates will help buy you time and win back trust piece by piece. When the crisis has been stopped and things have been fixed, reflect on what you have learned and share it. Then, move on. Dwelling on what you did wrong does not help your career, your mental health, or the business. Moving forward, setting new goals, and bouncing back helps all three. If you want a more in-depth lesson on how to mentally prepare to lead through crises, how to manage them, and how to recover, read this week’s newsletter: https://buff.ly/uZWsxLV Readers- what mistakes have you made that you were able to thrive through? How did you bounce back?

Not all failures are equally intelligent. Blindly embracing failure without structured learning leads to wasted effort. The most innovative and inclusive teams don’t fail randomly—they: 🔹 Run experiments with clear hypotheses 🔹 Test assumptions rather than take blind risks 🔹 Extract insights from failures and iterate But here’s the catch—learning from failure requires psychological safety. Without an environment where people feel safe to share mistakes, challenge ideas, and admit uncertainty, failure becomes a silent roadblock instead of a stepping stone. 💡 Leaders set the tone. Here are 3 practical ways to foster intelligent failure: 1️⃣ Track “good failures” as a key metric Most teams track success metrics—but what if you also tracked learning-driven failures? Encourage teams to document failures that led to valuable insights, prevented bigger mistakes, or refined an approach. 2️⃣ Design “pre-mortem” sessions before major decisions Instead of only analyzing failures after they happen, conduct pre-mortems: 🔹 Ask, “If this project were to fail, what might have caused it?” 🔹 Gather diverse perspectives to uncover risks early 🔹 Strategize preventive actions to minimize blind spots This approach reduces costly mistakes while creating an inclusive space for open dialogue. 3️⃣ Assign a “Red Team” to challenge assumptions Cognitive biases and groupthink often lead to avoidable failures. Before implementing a major decision, assign a rotating "Red Team" to stress-test ideas by deliberately challenging assumptions, questioning the data, and proposing alternative perspectives. 💭 What’s one thing you do to turn failure into a learning opportunity in your team? Let’s share insights! 🔔 Follow me to learn more about building inclusive, high-performing teams. __________________________ 🌟 Hi there! I’m Susanna, an accredited Fearless Organization Scan Practitioner with 10+ years of experience in workplace inclusion. I help companies build inclusive cultures where diverse, high-performing teams thrive with psychological safety. Let’s unlock your team’s full potential together!

Regret your candour with the boss? Made a careless blunder that will cost the company a lot of money? Ignore a minor problem that now puts your credibility at risk? You’re not alone. Everyone I know makes mistakes. Many of them are also leaders, doers, trailblazers and have profit from making mistakes. James Joyce says mistakes are the portals of discovery and the management literature abounds with many articles advocating that mistakes can be a good thing. But there is a caveat - whilst making mistakes is part of working life, learning from them and managing their consequences requires integrity and skills. We all make mistakes and if managed poorly, mistakes will damage our reputation and career. This is especially true when we are at vulnerable points in our career like when we are just at the beginning of our career or starting a new role, or trying to win over a new manager. So how does one respond when one makes a significant mistake? Many wish the mistake would not be noticed, or are gripped by fear that prompts poor decisions. The key is to replace wishful thinking and fear with taking control of the situation. This can be achieved by a four-step approach. 1. Own up. But tread carefully especially if the company has a culture of blame-shifting - it's important to pick your moment and find allies. But whatever you do, own up before your hand is forced. And own up properly - admit the mistake and don't make excuses. 2. Improvement. Shift the focus from blaming people to improving processes by doing an objective assessment to identify root causes and process improvements so the same mistake will not happen again. Also articulate accurately the consequences of the mistake and recommend specific actions to mitigate its impact. 3. Permission. Share how you would implement the mitigation measures and improvements, and get approval to proceed. So from being the person who made the mistake, you become the person who eliminates mistakes. 4. Compassion. Have compassion for yourself. Recognise that A. mistakes likely happen when you strive for growth and push for performance, B. You can learn from this experience and reduce the chances of mistakes, Whilst we can't make an omelette without breaking eggs, we can learn, be better and never make the same mistake. Agree?

Mistakes are an inevitable part of the human experience, both in our personal and professional lives. Despite our best intentions, errors and missteps occur. However, it is not the mistakes themselves that define us, but rather how we choose to respond and learn from them. Mistakes provide us with valuable learning opportunities. They offer insights into areas where we can improve, helping us grow both personally and professionally. When we approach mistakes with a mindset of curiosity and a willingness to learn, we can extract valuable lessons that contribute to our development and success. Learning from mistakes involves acknowledging and taking responsibility for our actions. It requires humility and a willingness to reflect on our choices and behaviors. By examining the root causes of our mistakes, we can identify patterns, uncover gaps in knowledge or skills, and develop strategies to prevent similar errors in the future. Furthermore, learning from mistakes promotes resilience. It allows us to bounce back stronger and more prepared to face future challenges. By understanding the consequences of our mistakes and making necessary adjustments, we build resilience and develop the skills to overcome obstacles and setbacks with greater ease. Moreover, learning from mistakes is not solely an individual endeavor; it also benefits teams and organizations. Creating a culture that encourages open communication and learning from mistakes fosters innovation and growth. When individuals feel safe to share their mistakes, experiences, and insights, it unleashes collective learning, enables the sharing of best practices, and drives continuous improvement. It's important to remember that mistakes should not be dwelled upon or turned into a source of shame. Instead, they should be viewed as stepping stones towards progress and success. By embracing a growth mindset and understanding that mistakes are an integral part of the learning process, we can develop resilience, gain valuable insights, and cultivate a culture of continuous improvement. In conclusion, mistakes are inevitable, but they should never be feared or avoided. Embracing and learning from mistakes is essential for personal and professional growth. When we approach mistakes as opportunities for learning, we transform setbacks into stepping stones, enabling us to become more resilient, knowledgeable, and successful in our endeavors.

Have you ever written a personal Failure Log? It’s a simple but powerful self-improvement technique which builds mental resilience. Setbacks happen in everyone’s career journey. But documenting the decisions and circumstances that lead to failure will let you transform defeats into lessons and strengthen your capacity to bounce back. It’s easy to do too. Here’s how to write a Failure Log: Pick a format (spreadsheet, notebook, or digital journal) and a frequency (weekly is good for reflection). For each entry, answer: - What went wrong? - What did I learn? - How will I change my approach next time?   Use one or two sentences to answer each question. Stay objective. Use a neutral tone (“I didn’t delegate enough tasks”) rather than inflammatory statements (“I’m terrible at managing projects”). Focus on describing events and lessons, rather than beating yourself up. The aim is insight, not self-blame. Review your entries every month or two to spot patterns — maybe you sometimes underestimate timelines or often fail to communicate well enough with stakeholders. Over time, you’ll course-correct with consistent strategies. Celebrating your successes is important, but objectively acknowledging your failures will often yield the most impactful lessons. A Failure Log can be a transformative tool to consistently improve your outcomes. Best of all, over time you’ll develop a more resilient form of confidence — grounded in reality, not wishful thinking. What techniques do you use to learn from your own professional setbacks?

Empathy is playing an increasingly central role in leadership, and that’s a big positive, but many of us get empathy wrong. Here’s what we’re missing: the essence of empathy is realizing you can’t understand how someone else feels.   You can listen, support, and walk beside them, but you can’t fully live their experience. And that’s okay—because empathy isn’t about perfect understanding; it’s about presence. It’s about saying, “Even though I can’t feel exactly what you feel, I’m here for you anyway.” Rather than trying to offer advice, fix their pain, or explain it away, the most powerful thing you can do is simply hold space. Let someone be heard without judgment. Let them feel without being rushed toward solutions. Empathy asks us to trade certainty for curiosity. To put aside assumptions and open ourselves to someone else’s truth, even when it’s uncomfortable or unfamiliar. It’s not about agreeing, and it’s definitely not about centering ourselves in someone else’s struggle. It’s about connection over correction. Next time someone opens up to you, resist the urge to say, “I know exactly how you feel.” Instead try, “I can’t imagine exactly what that’s like, but I’m here.” This kind of quiet humility—that’s empathy. For more on careers, leadership, management, and professional development, follow me and subscribe to my newsletter.

In school, we’re taught that failure is something to avoid at all costs. But failure is actually required to reach your long term goals. Here are 5 ways failure helped me reach mine: 1. Building A Music Blog In 2011, I started a music blog. It never got more than 200 total visits. I eventually shut it down. But it taught me how to set up my own website and the basics of internet marketing, which allowed me to start Cultivated Culture without any funding. 2. Building A Social App In 2014, I had an idea for an app. I spent dozens of hours mocking it up and $1,000+ on prototype. Two weeks later, two other companies launched identical apps with venture funding. But it taught me the basics of developing a piece of software, and allowed me to build our current suite of job search tools. 3. Freelancing I wanted to change industries, so I freelanced to gain experience. I didn’t get any clients from the first 1,000+ emails I sent. But it taught me that “sales” and outreach are volume games, as well as giving me data that I eventually used to optimize, get clients, and leverage in my networking efforts to land referrals. 4. LinkedIn (Take 1) I shared my first piece of LinkedIn content in 2016. I did it for about two weeks before feeling dejected that I wasn’t getting any reactions or views. That eventually led to the realization that, if I wanted to grow, I needed to focus on creating content instead of outcomes at the beginning. 5. LinkedIn (Take 2) About six months later, I starting sharing LinkedIn content again. This time, I kept it up for a month before running out of ideas. I had to stop again, but it eventually taught me that creating content is about building a repeatable system vs. just writing when inspiration strikes. 6. The Outcomes Of Failing Every one of these failures taught me lessons that I eventually leveraged successfully down the road. I was able to start my own business and bootstrap it without needing funding or paid ads because of everything I’d learned from past mistakes and failed ventures. Every one of those experiences is a lesson, if you’re open to seeing it.